Faye Morley, 31, from Bath, will be running the Royal Parks Half Marathon on Sunday 10th October, in aid of Tommy’s, a charity which researches the causes of miscarriage, stillbirth and premature birth, after her and husband, Liam, unfortunately suffered a missed miscarriage in March 2021.
A missed miscarriage is where a mother hasn’t endured any noticeable symptoms, such as bleeding or pain. At almost thirteen weeks pregnant, Faye went for a scan where she was told the devastating news that there was no longer a heartbeat.
She explains: “It left me, and my husband broken. There is no other word to describe our state of being in that moment. I had a missed miscarriage, and naively had no idea that you could have a miscarriage with no blood or physical warnings. The shock factor added such an extra layer to the pain.”
The aftermath of the missed miscarriage resulted in three trips to A&E and two stays in a hospital ward: “I was so unprepared for the physical and emotional trauma that followed. The first trip to A&E was on Mother’s Day of all days. All of which I was alone for, due to COVID. I felt helpless and just broken.”
Several months later, Faye is understandably navigating her way through the complex array of emotions she’s experienced: “I have felt devastated, angry, empty, isolated and both hopeless, yet hopeful. Grief hits in me in small subtle ripples, as well as huge crashing waves.”
She continues: “The hormones, coupled with horrendous flashbacks and feelings of low self-worth and low confidence resulted in my mental health being the worst it has ever been in my life. The passion and spark I usually have for life and helping others just disappeared.”
Faye joined a miscarriage support group online, which made her realise how many women go through the same pain she’s suffered, each day.
In April 2021 Faye also began running: “Running helped with my mental health. Each time I ran and told myself I could, it was a voice telling me that I will be OK, and I can get through this. It was a positive way to channel my energy and I started to get a spring back in my step.”
Faye has been training for the Royal Parks Half Marathon, taking place in October in aid of Tommy’s. Training’s been going well so far: “Although I haven’t always felt motivated, I know I’m running for such a great cause, and this has helped me dig deep when I’ve needed to. I am doing a mix of strength training, sprinting and mobility, including some longer runs!”
She continues: “I’m most looking forward to the buzz on race day and the beautiful parks. I love running outside in nature, and the feeling of freedom. I can’t wait for the atmosphere and sense of achievement when I cross the finish line.”
Finally, Faye imparts some wisdom to those who may also have suffered a miscarriage:
“Express gratitude every single day, I journal my thoughts and gratitude each morning, even during the darkest days I make sure to. I also get out in nature for a walk at least once a day. A kitchen dance is always great to boost your mood too, even when you don’t feel like it, you’ll feel better after.”
To donate to Faye’s cause, go to: https://uk.virginmoneygiving.com/fundraiser-display/showROFundraiserPage?userUrl=LiamandFayeMorley&pageUrl=1